I remember as a child when we went on some cross country vacations in the car. We could drive accross the USA to go to one destination or another. My mother was a music teacher and my sister and I grew up singing. When we would take those long car rides we would sing the scores of every broadway musical we knew and every other song we could think of. Everything was in 3 part harmony. Mom, my sister and I would sing while dad filled the role of audience (he was one of the only people I have ever met who truly couldn't sing).
Today, forty years later, I only have vague memories of our destinations. I don't remember much of the details about Disney land or being seasick on the fishing boat in Oregon. But my memories of singing, laughing, talking and sometimes fighting in the car on those trips are as vivid as if they happened yesterday. If you have ever heard someone tell you that the journey is more important than the destination, believe them. I suspect that the milestones in our lives, as important as they may be seem, with time will fade away but the paths we took to reach those milestones stay with us forever. Enjoy the trip!
1. Decide to be happy! It’s not magic. Deciding to be happy doesn’t automatically make you happy and it can at times involve hard work. But deciding that you want to be happy and deserve to be happy is the first step that will lead you to making the necessary decisions and choosing the actions to move you in the right direction.
3. Keep learning. Be curious. Ask more questions and really listen to what people say. Talk to strangers. Read more books.
6. Don’t work for money. Work for stimulation and satisfaction. The money will follow.
7. If you find yourself in a bad situation, for example at work or in a relationship, make a plan and take the necessary steps to either improve the situation or to move on to a better one. If you find yourself in a good situation invest more of yourself into it.
8. Spend more time with friends and family. Try hard to really be with them when you are with them. That means turning off whatever problem is mulling around in your head, the TV or your cellphone for just a little while and just be. Don’t avoid people you don’t like. They will help you learn a great deal about yourself.
9. Work hard! Be wary of easy answers and quick fixes. Creating anything worthwhile whether it’s a painting, a career, a relationship or a life is hard work.